Gosh, 42 days can feel like a long time to commit to something focused on yourself!! In a world obsessed with immediate results, 24/7 availability, ticking boxes, people wanting everything done yesterday it’s easy to see why we women are in a rush to show we’ve got this motherhood thing down pat in the first few weeks, to demonstrate how ‘capable’ we are and that we are ‘bouncing back’ as well as the next person.Read More
There’s a reason this 42 Days of Self Care is called a ‘Challenge’!Read More
If you follow me on social media at all you may have noticed that I've taken on a 42 day self care challenge (thanks to Rebecca Home - Postnatal Doula), 42 days being the number of days often talked about in terms of the most crucial period in postpartum care. Obviously I’m a little beyond 42 days postpartum (roughly 1260 days beyond if we are counting) BUT self care shouldn’t be something we only focus on at specific times of our lives. Sure, there will be points in our lives that self care is going to be especially important, pre-conception, pregnancy, postpartum and menopause to name just a few) but for us to thrive as individuals, families and communities we need to move our care further to the forefront of our lives.Read More
Generally, I hate to generalise, but in this instance I’m going to. Pretty much whatever angle I look at it from, being a Mum is HARD! I hear from others that it’s hard, I read in blogs and social media that it’s hard and it’s my lived experience so far (nearly 6 years in and counting). But I’ll be honest, when I had my first I seriously wondered why everyone else was finding it all so easy. Turns out that they weren’t but who knew?!? Not me.Read More
We all have our light bulb moments. Everyone’s moment will look very different but when it happens it's hard not to LISTEN.
I've had a few big light bulb moments since having children. The most significant being at around 8 weeks postpartum, when according to some, the postpartum period is ticked off, yep, that’s right, done and dusted! However I still felt like I was in the thick of it. I WAS in the thick of it.Read More
I’d like to talk about something that’s been coming to the forefront of my awareness for a while. Something I see with so many mothers. I’m even going to put my hand up and admit I do it too. I don’t actually think it’s limited to mothers but it is around mothers I see it the most. I see it arise time and time again. Why is it a problem??? Because Motherhood can be pretty darn lonely at times and this trait only adds to the isolation as we set ourselves apart from others, rather than recognising that we are all in the same boat. The ‘something’ shows up in a few different guises but what I see is this….
This is a question I’m asked a lot. Pretty much every time someone asks me what I do. I’m always hesitant to answer the question of what a postpartum doula does because it’s a bit like the question ‘how long is a piece of string’. Well, perhaps the options are slightly narrower as a postpartum doula but you get my gist! Similar to my experience when choosing a Midwife or choosing an osteopath, they are not all created equally. That’s not to say that one is better or worst than the other, more that the things that appeal to one mother regarding postpartum support may not appeal to another. We are all drawn to different things, different types of people and different approaches. That’s just life. So it’s important when considering postpartum support to find someone that you feel comfortable with.
Good question! Why bother with Pregnancy and Postpartum Yoga? (Especially when you already go to a great yoga class, or have got this far through life without yoga).
You may feel perfectly happy continuing with your current practice if you are seasoned yogi and your teacher is able to take care of your needs throughout pregnancy/postpartum or you are happy doing your own research on pregnancy/postpartum yoga. I certainly know people who have taken that path. Similarly, you may never have felt called to do yoga or to attend a yoga class up until this point, so why start now? We all make different choices. Rarely is there a clear cut right and wrong with all things pregnancy, birth and postpartum. Often it’s more about tuning in to what is right for you.
I’ve thought for some time as to whether to (re)post this meme. So many people get uncomfortable when we talk about money. Heck, I get uncomfortable talking about money. Money, and perceptions around money and worth, can be a sensitive topic but I’d love to have the conversation. May we?Read More
The postpartum weeks are a time of great change for a new mother, physically, mentally and emotionally. How you journey through this period can have a lasting impact on your life as a mother and as a woman. As Ysha Oakes said ’the first 42 days after birth set the stage for her next 42 years’. So why in our society is this important time for the new mother so ignored, both in our planning for becoming a mother, and during the time itself?Read More
Staying nourished in the days and weeks after the birth of your baby can be a challenge. We aren’t all in a position to have someone around for those first 40-60 days cooking for us and taking care of our needs as we take care of babies needs. I was careful not to use the word luxury there as I don’t actually believe postpartum care should be considered a luxury, though it often is.
Bliss balls aren’t the answer to everything (though some days it does feel like it!!) but they can be a great boost during the postpartum period when hunger strikes and you need something quick.Read More
Having such a tough postpartum period (appreciating it’s not a competition, everyone’s ‘tough’ is different and that’s ok) led to me knowing that my future work HAD to ease the path into motherhood for other women. To help them create their Village, sometimes maybe to BE their village, or at least part of it. To share with them the information they require to plan for their postpartum with the same level of thought and awareness that is already given to pregnancy, birth and subsequently to parenting.Read More